 1924 - 2018 (93 years)
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| Name |
Joyce Olive BILLSON |
| Birth |
18 Nov 1924 |
227, Clifton Road, Rugby  |
| Gender |
Female |
| Death |
6 Aug 2018 |
Gracewell Nursing Home, Fareham |
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6 Aug 2018 Joyce Olive Mills, Death Certificate
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| Cremated |
31 08 2018 |
Wessex Vale Crematorium |
| Bubb Lane, West End, Southampton SO30 2HL |
- Joyce’s Wonderful Life, by Celia Walker nee Mills.
Joyce Olive Mills made her dramatic entry to the world on the 18th November 1924 in Rugby; by a difficult breach birth (she was very proud to tell this). She felt that this had set a marker for her, as, in those days, so many such births ended in tragedy for both mother and baby, and so lived her life with determination and endeavour . She was the eldest of three children born to Len and May Billson. By her own account, she was a serious child who seemed to have an adult head on her from the word GO! She loved her brothers, Fred and Ron but always thought their games were too babyish for her! They both emigrated to the States in their 20s so she saw very little of them or their families during her life.
Her greatest love as a child was being at school. She was a voracious learner, Maths was her favourite subject, and she was always top of the class - something which she remained fiercely proud of her whole life. She attended Rugby High School for Girls and whilst achieving academic excellence, also enjoyed sports and being in the school netball team as goal shooter and captain; and in the hockey team, playing at right back.
Her school days were cut short after gaining distinctions in all her School Certificate exams (the equivalent of A star GCSEs) when her father wouldn’t allow her to continue her education. So, at 17, she left school to work in the accountancy offices of the local council in order to contribute to the household. This was her biggest, but only, regret of her life as she would have dearly loved to have gone to university to continue her studies and achieve her potential.
However, this cloud had a silver lining! The mother of Joyce’s best friend had taken in a lodger. A young man of 19, Ron Mills, had moved from his home in Hampshire to work as an apprentice in the electrical engineering industry which was based in Rugby. By his account, as soon as he saw Joyce he knew he was going to marry her and so began their friendship soon blossoming into romance and their marriage in 1946.
They lived in rooms for nearly four years but in 1950 when they announced the imminent arrival of Corin, their landlady refused to have a baby in the house and they had to move out and live with the Joyce’s parents. They desperately wanted their own house but had no deposit. This is when their Indian Adventure idea began to take shape. Ron had been offered a job with BTH in Calcutta to help the heavy electrical engineering industry after India’s recent independence. It was the answer to their prayers as it would allow them to accrue enough money for that all important deposit. So together with Corin, an 18 month old toddler, in 1951 they embarked from Southampton on a three-week sea voyage to India, First Class, all paid for by the Company. Mum’s recollection of this voyage was not a happy one as she suffered badly with sea sickness but still had to attend to Corin’s needs! The next stage of the journey was a 3 day sleeper train ride across India from Bombay to Calcutta. Again, another very trying time!
Life in India was very different. She had servants for everything, even an Ayah (nanny) to look after Corin! Joyce’s days were mostly spent socialising with the other European ladies. It was a life of luxury, but she admitted to being very bored with it! Whilst there, I was born. It hadn’t been a good pregnancy as Joyce had contracted dysentery, which continued for months after the birth. Her health was poor, and Ron couldn’t afford to send her to the hills to escape the heat of Calcutta, so the company flew her home, whilst Ron had to stay and complete his contract.
The journey home on a Lockheed Super Constellation required three stops for refuelling. During the stop in Beirut, Joyce, being so accustomed to having servants do all the fetching and carrying, she left 3 month old Celia in her carrycot in the airport café, only realising when a request came over the tannoy for a certain Joyce Mills to return and collect her baby! They finally landed at Heathrow, which then was just a collection of corrugated sheds, and were met by Ron’s father.
Her memory of the flight included noting that as they flew from East to West, the sun in front of the plane never set.
After the best part of a year living with her in-laws in Gosport, Joyce’s beloved Ron returned, and they moved to Sheffield where he had secured a job. They were able to put a deposit on their first house using the ‘India’ money and this was where Brian was born. Her little family now complete, Joyce found herself, for the first time, with no support network of servants or family but her strength of character saw her through a hectic life with three small children.
After a couple of years spent in Sheffield, Joyce and Ron moved back to Rugby to another new house in Old Bilton where their young family grew up. During this time she was an active member of the local Townswomen’s Guild, and was Chairwoman several times. Once the children were all at school, and still relatively short of money, Joyce made the decision to pick up her education. At aged 40, she learnt to drive and then attended Coventry Teacher Training College, taking a two-year accelerated course to become a teacher. True to form, she gained a distinction for her Certificate in Education.
Joyce then worked as a junior school teacher and revisited her love of netball by coaching the school netball team. They were very successful and won lots of their matches – something which she was rightly proud of. Her teaching career spanned 20 + years and included specialising in special needs education in which she gained several promotions. She loved teaching and like everything she turned her hand to, made a great success of it. She said it had made up for just a little of her disappointment at not going to university!
As her children became adults, she welcomed their partners, Lynne, Paul, and a few years later, John and June with love and warmth, enfolding them into her family. They held a special place in her heart.
In 1977, Joyce became a grandmother first to Emma, and then quickly followed by Matthew, Elena, Zoe and finally, James. She and Ron absolutely loved this new role and were the most wonderful grandparents who doted on their grandchildren who loved them back in equal measure! Many happy times were spent at their house in Pratts Bottom..... a place name which still gives much amusement to everyone!
After retiring from teaching, Joyce and Ron enjoyed several happy years travelling abroad for holidays in Cyprus, going to the theatre, concerts, the opera and the ballet, visiting museums and galleries and generally enjoying the freedom to do what they liked when they liked!
Unfortunately, this lifestyle was cut short by Ron having a heart attack and his health deteriorated considerably. It hit Joyce hard and she suffered greatly with anxiety. The next 10 years were difficult for her but she showed her strength and managed to carry on, although it did take its toll. After her beloved Ron died, Joyce became very depressed and the next 5 years were her darkest, experiencing loneliness (she’d never been on her own) and never really recovering from her loss.
Over several years, Joyce once again warmly welcomed new members to the family, Emma’s partner, now husband, Chris, Matthews’s wife, Belle, Elena’s husband John, James’ wife Sarah and recently Zoe’s partner Darren.
2 years before Ron died, their first great grandchild, Daniel was born, closely followed by William! A source of great joy to them both. After Ron’s death, Joyce was blessed with more; Along came Poppy, Isabelle, Jenson, Benjamin, Keeka, Harriet, Josie, Edith, Joshua and Esmee. They have all brought new, untold joy and love into her life. She was so proud to boast that she had 12 beautiful great grandchildren!
Joyce was first and foremost a home maker, a family woman, a beloved wife, a caring and loving mother, a devoted grandmother and great grandmother. During the last years of her life, her greatest joy came from knowing that her children were happy and successful good hearted people who held the same ideals by which she lived her life and that they in turn have raised their children to be the same, who are also in the process of doing likewise with their children. We are her legacy, a family who love, care and support each other no matter what.
Rest in peace, our lovely Mummy, Nana, Great Nana. You may have gone from view but you’ll never leave our hearts. We all loved you very much and trust that you and your beloved Ronnie are together now for all eternity.
'Til we meet again …….
A Poem for my Nanna by Emma Bolton.
We had a wonderful Nanna
One who never really grew old
Her smile was made of sunshine
and her heart was solid gold.
We had a wonderful Nanna
In her cheeks pink roses you'd see
Her eyes were as bright as shining stars
And tha'ts the way she will always be.
We had a wonderful Nanna
We're all here to wave her goodbye
So Nanna, cuddle up with Grandpa
With that chocolate box in the sky!
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| Person ID |
I000004 |
Mills/Rushton Family History |
| Last Modified |
6 Sep 2018 |
| Father |
Leonard Sidney Henry BILLSON, b. 4 May 1898, 63, Kingswood Road, Clapham d. 1 May 1992, Hospital of St Cross, Rugby (Age 93 years) |
| Relationship |
Birth |
| Mother |
Adelaide Victoria May WILSON, b. 22 Oct 1897, 1 Mary's Cottages, Eastcote Street, Stockwell, London. d. 14 May 1965, Rugby (Age 67 years) |
| Relationship |
Birth |
| Marriage |
18 Aug 1923 |
Streatham, Surrey, England |
| Family ID |
F000004 |
Group Sheet | Family Chart |
| Family |
Ronald George MILLS, b. 20 Jul 1923, 67, North St, Gosport d. 16 Jan 2007, Southampton General Hospital (Age 83 years) |
| Marriage |
24 Aug 1946 |
the Parish Church, Rugby |
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1946 RG Mills & JO Billson Marriage Certificate
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1946 August 27 Ron and Joyce Mills nee Billson
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| Children |
| + | 1. Corin Vincent MILLS, b. 22 May 1950, St. Mary's Maternity Hospital, Harborough Magna, Warks. (Age 74 years) |
| + | 2. Celia Rosemary MILLS, b. 7 Jul 1953, Calcutta, India (Age 71 years) [Father: Birth] [Mother: Birth] |
| | 3. Brian Alexander MILLS, b. 2 Jul 1956, 36, Alms Hill Road, Eccleshall, Sheffield (Age 68 years) [Father: Birth] [Mother: Birth] |
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| Family ID |
F000002 |
Group Sheet | Family Chart |
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